I’ve been working part time little over a month now. The change has not been drastic which is good. I very much enjoy my job and it does provide an escape from the daily chores as a mother. That being said though, once I get home, a mess awaits me.
I leave the house clean or at least everything organized before I go out. I like coming home to a clean house. I can’t simply ignore the clutter because it’s not in my nature. I might be tired from work but I will not rest until the dishes are washed and all the toys and other things are put away.
Here’s my dilemma though. My husband takes care of the kids. There hasn’t been a day when I get home from work and it’s a mess. Even my husband creates his own pile. Feels like I have 3 kids instead of 2. I was okay with it the first few times since I’m grateful he takes care of them. But yesterday getting home, I was very much annoyed. What makes matters worse, he’s acting like a sour patch kid and just decides to lay there on the couch while he’s making Zelda clean up, which she wasn’t the only one playing, pick up all the toys in the living room and bedroom. I didn’t want to start an argument so I helped Zelda clean everything up. After washing the dishes, I popped a pizza in the oven and poured myself a cup of wine and watched a movie. My day was great and I wasn’t going to bitter it with an argument. So I gave my husband the cold shoulder.
Is it childish? Yes it is but honestly, he’s been doing it every time he babysits and at this point, I’ve had it. Screw it. I mean, is it too much to ask to just pick up after himself and the kids? I don’t mind washing dishes as long as they’re in the sink and not in the counter.
I just want to come home to a clean place so I can enjoy the rest of my day with my family.